Think about what you were saying when they used to talk to you. Think about your choice of words and tone. Think about why they tried to come to you and why they don’t anymore. When you shut them out, belittle them, and blame them for all of their problems, you will lose them. And that will be permanent.
This.
My therapist legit called my mom out on this shit. She keeps calling me a “non-functioning adult” and my therapist heard her say it and was like “WOAH! Ok you need to stop that immediately. Do you realize you’re belittling her? That you’re labeling her for life? You then judge her for having low self-esteem and drive to do things when you actively oppress her by labeling her like that.” And I glanced at Mom and him and Mom was like real quiet and was like “okay”. She has yet to say it since. So yeah. Parents don’t even realize this shit. And I’m almost 21… This happened less than a month ago. You are talking to tiny humans. Treat them that way! Like a human!!!
Dear parents who wonder why their kids never talk to them…
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Dama Cherepaha 