How… how on earth do you discover that you have an ability like this. Do you wake up one day and say “I wanna log-roll a table upside-down” and dedicate your life to achieving that goal? Are you lounging around the house and someone tosses an ottoman at you and you roll a 20 on your Dex check? How?
idk what it is but there’s something about the thought of a guy who’s kinda shy about sex that turns me on like…way too much. blushing. wanting to touch but being too shy to ask, looking at me like i’m a goddess and then quickly looking away when our eyes meet. mmm. bonus points if they get turned on just from looking at me/listening to my voice. subby boys are so fucking cute i can’t~
My muse has to pick one or the other. They have to pick one. Not neither, not both.
Submissive or Dominant? Whips or Chains? Handcuffs or Shibari? Pillow Princess or Power Bottom? Voyeur or
Exhibitionist? Blindfolds or Spreader Bars? Butt Plugs or
Vibrators? Edging or Multiple Rounds? Knots or Ovipositor? Spanking or Scratching? Ball Gag or Muzzle? Strap on or Double
Sided Dildo? On on one or Group Sex? Vanilla or Kinky? Lengthy Cocks or Girthy Cocks? Small Boobs or Large Boobs? Ass
or Chests? Thighs or Arms? Hot Wax or Knifeplay? Loud or Quiet? Biting or Sucking? Collars or Piercings? Costumes or Lingerie Monogamy or Polyamory? Laughing and silliness during sex or
Intensity and power struggle during sex? Fucking a Virgin or
Fucking someone with experience? Face to face or from behind? Phone sex or Sexting? Cumming
inside or Cumming outside Being filled or Bukkake Dirty Talk or Degradation? Role play or Porn on in the background? Public Edging or Filming
in the Bedroom? Condom or Bareback? Lube or Raw? Video Call Masturbation or Sexy Selfies? Blood Play or Breath Play? Face fucking or Anal sex? Leather or PVC? Morning Sex or Evening Sex? Clothes on or
Clothes off?
144 here. As counterintuitive as it will seem, instead of backing off and giving him space (which is almost always a bad move), give him more opportunities to be your Dom. We’re not talking about big-ticket items here; I tend to use the catchphrase “Let him lead.”Do this by finding many small ways to keep him mindful that you belong to him and “he’s in charge.” D/s isn’t about kink, it’s about those million and one little ways in which the Dom exerts leadership. Some examples:
“I can’t decide which of these two tops to wear today. Which should i wear?”
“Please let me know what color panties today. I have green, grey, and pink.”
“I’m at the restaurant, should I have the Cobb salad or the Pad Thai?”
And the money shot: “I’m horny. May I have an orgasm?”
It is an oddly stress-relieving thing for a Dom when their submissive defers to them and lets them lead. We need that. It’s oxygen for us.
I am confirm this. Once I sent @instructor144 an ask about something similar. My Dom was moving and wasn’t naturally acting as Dominant as usually. He said to me “when life stress throws a Dom off of his game, offer him small ‘opportunities to lead’, anything from check ins to the old parties selection. The leash has two ends and by offering him yours, you both feel the pull and it strengthens the connection.”
Since putting that in practice more I can 100% confirm the truth in it. I ask permission before I do virtually anything. “Sir, may I send you a link to a Tumblr post I just read that I like a lot?” And things even as little as that make him feel more Dominant and me more submissive and it makes both of our roles easier to stay in 💜
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A must read, ladies and gents.
Please, do this, yes. “The leash has two ends”, I like that a lot
Dama Cherepaha 