melotrauma:

melotrauma:

neurodivulging:

just Good Parenting™ things:

• “I’m trying my best”
• “I’m here if you need anything” *leaves*
• “It could have been a lot worse”
• “I mean it’s not like we abused you”
• (after a friend breakup) “girls are mean and catty”
• other people: “you don’t need to parent [younger sibling]. that’s your parents’ job. let them do that.” me: ……………yeah…
• “all i can do is validate you” *turns invalidating*
• overshares
• *complains about childhood and then yells at you for calling it negative things*
• someone: you should talk to your parents about that! me: ahahaaaa yeahhhh
• That Tone of Voice™
• also, that “i’m not Mad at you i’m Just Explaining” thing
• that terror when someone starts yelling
• me @ myself: it wasn’t that bad :)))
• me, watching poems about emotional abuse: huh i have no idea why this hits me so hard, i had a Good Childhood

• *parent cleans or does dishes angrily* wow why am i scared??
• “he’s a good person!”
• guilt tripping
• “i don’t know what to do with you”
• “it’s not your fault” it is it is it is it is
• i don’t know why i’m Scared, they would Never Hurt Me

• “we’re not abusive!! it could have been a lot worse!!!”
• “i don’t remember saying that”
• “you can’t live with us forever, you have to do things and go out in the world!”
• [from when I was a preteen] the thrilling sequel to: “girls are mean and catty” is: “boys will try to hurt you and you shouldn’t let them, like I did”
• [when i was actively suicidal] “everyone has mood swings sometimes! although…. i guess some people’s are more extreme than others”
• Disappointment™️
• “i have Regrets about the way i parented you” (which i’ll tell you about while crying and expecting you to comfort me even though you’re my child)
• [to my younger sibling] {parents} going between, “you can do whatever you want, i don’t care!” and, “i care about you so much and i’m trying so hard and none of it’s helping, i don’t know how to help you anymore”
• my mom literally telling my younger sibling, “i’ve given up on you”
• that time my mom told me that my sibling’s trauma therapist told them all that [my younger sibling] doesn’t trust me or my twin because he was abandoned by his biological siblings??
• general feelings that my and my younger sibling’s likes/interests/mental health symptoms are a phase
• “i was always with you in the hospital. every time, i was with you”
• my younger sibling telling me multiple times that they’re a bad person and a “delinquent”
• [to me and my twin at the dinner table, in front of a friend of mine] “you don’t listen”
• “we treat you the way you need (deserve??) to be treated”
• *is more validating of their pets than their actual children*
• [to my younger sibling, while they’re crying] “you can stop your fake crying now, I can tell you’re faking it”