Service-Oriented Submission

ladylike-dominance:

edenspeaks:

Service-Oriented Submission

Worshiping my pussy, and bringing me to orgasm
is NOT“service,” neither is giving me a massage, or worshiping any part of my
body.  Those things are privileges, and
frankly extremely easy to come by.  (Not
to mention the fact that I am capable of bringing about my own orgasm, and can
easily go get a professional massage).  You
must earn the privilege of tasting us.  If you need to be forced or coerced into oral service,
then you do not deserve the privilege of it. That is something one should crave, and work hard to obtain.

Being a service-oriented submissive means that
you seek out ways to make the life of your dominant easier, more enjoyable and
more comfortable, without any expectation of reward, attention, play, or
acknowledgment.  (Although a good Dominant
will give you those things)

Some of you
may remember in the film Exit to Eden,
when the submissive Dan Akroyd, kept asking “what can I do to please you?” and
he was told to “paint my house” by the Dominant Rosie O’Donnell. Not to ruin
the great movie, but the films ends with him and painting crew showing up to do
just that.

Most of us
Dominant creatures don’t care how those things get done, we just want to have
them done, and not have to worry about it.
Some of us have particularities about the how, but that should be an
easy directive to follow, such as “This is how the bed should be made”.   

The
submissive aspect of being “service-oriented” is that there are going to be
times when we disagree as to how something should be done.  If, after listening to your reasoning, I
still don’t agree, deference should be to my way. (side note: a good dominant should always foster open
communication, even if there is a disagreement).
It may be that you have to forgo your boy’s night, or game to address
the tasks on your to-do list.  You should
do those things happily and without complaint.
The key to learning those things
is to listen.  

Here are some examples of the type service
oriented things I wish for:  

1.    Remove the dead tree in the back yard
so that I can enjoy my sunrise view

2.    Replace the air return latch, so I
don’t keep getting cut every time I replace the filter

3.    Pull the weeds in the garden so I can
spend more time enjoying it, and perhaps playing in it, then getting upset at
cursing the dandelions’

4.    Take the time to notice the things I
enjoy, be it a beverage, something a collect, or music or entertainers that I
like and anticipate the need for those things.  
Have the cabinet always stocked with them, set the DVR to record them on
the chance that I might want to watch them.

5.     Fix the damn electrical outlet in the kitchen,
or have someone come fix it.. (trust me this will bring me great peace, and
coffee!)  

6.     Adjust the program on the sprinkler system so
I do not have to get soaked when I come home from work.

7.    If you see the car is dirty wash it,
maybe leave a note or card on the steering wheel that makes me laugh or smile,
and treasure you.

8.     If you hear me talking about a new restaurant,
Make a reservation. Don’t wait to be told.

9.      You
know the huge stack of papers I’ve been meaning to shred, and sort through?  Well it will be some nice to come home and
see it done, or better yet, a romantic bonfire on the beach with it as
kindling.

As a service-oriented submissive it is your
duty to strive to make the dominants life less stressful and more
enjoyable.  I am fully
capable of taking care of  all of the things listed above, or hiring someone to do for me. But, It would make me happier if I didn’t even
have to worry about them, and even more elated if they never even came up
because someone else was attending to them.

If you strive for this level of
service, then you will be cherished, loved and rewarded.  (If you aren’t getting that return on your
investment, then you should reconsider who you are submitting to)  Submission  is about
being self-less, so that the Dominant can relax and enjoy whatever it is that they
wish. (hopefully that  something is you!)   Just pay close attention and listen to the
what your dominant is telling you, even if it isn’t clearly stated.  Learn to read between the lines, and
anticipate desires before they are even expressed.

Xxoo

Eden

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This is honestly just great relationship advice, even outside of a kink context. Listen to what your partner wants and do little things to make them happy.